Adjusting and Readjusting

I'm not going to lie, adjusting does not come naturally for me and I really don't enjoy having to do it. I will say that I am MUCH better at it today than I was years ago. I've come to learn that it is something that I will always have to do. So, I've learned to accept it and I try to go with the flow. It's pointless to stress about it, although many times that's easier said than done. As of late, I have noticed that adjusting and readjusting is necessary in relationships. I often expect people to act a certain way, or take them at their word, only to be let down. It's hard not to take it personal. It can be hurtful and disappointing. The thing is, we are all different from one another. So, this is bound to happen at some point, with everyone we know, no matter how similar we might seem. I struggled with how to handle my hurt and disappointment for years. There have been many prayers prayed and many tears cried. Since I do love people with all my heart, that leaves my heart open to hurt. In the past, I would allow these hurts to harden my heart and many times, to save myself from the pain, cut people out of my life. Instead, I now step back and look at the situation. What was I expecting from that person and that relationship? Why was I expecting it? Is that person cabable of what I expected? Do they mean what they say? Do they do what they say? Then, I adjust and sometimes readjust. Sometimes, it's how much of my heart can be exposed or invested. Sometimes, it's how I interact with them. Sometimes, it's if I can trust what they say or do. For the most I just try to believe the best. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. (1 Corinthians 13:7 NLT)